Spiritual Counselling

In short, beliefs are are like our foundations.  They are like rocks.  What we believe is lived out and manifested in our lives.  So they can stay stuck for years, lifetime/s.  We are sometimes quite blind to our beliefs, especially the fundamental deep rooted ones that are such a bedrock part of who we are that we dare not look at them in case it shakes our whole foundations…

Beliefs can be so ingrained that we have had them for lifetimes or they are passed down from ancestor to ancestor.  And then sometimes its down to our own experiences in this lifetime.  It doesn’t really matter at this point where the belief in question is held, whether its in our genetics, aura or head.  It’s getting access to the root core belief that really counts.  Once we reach this core belief, we can dissolve the belief in a number of ways.  This helps cancel lots of smaller held beliefs that have held us in place and stopped us moving forward in our lives.  So they tumble like a house of cards.

When we feel troubled by a certain experience or thought and we can’t work out why, its a good idea to look at our beliefs.  Lets say we have a fear of heights for instance.  More often than not, this is not just about heights.  Its usually a rigidly held belief that we are unaware of and which is no longer serving us.  If we fully explore the fear behind the fear, we usually find something quite different. 

There are lots of ways to manage our beliefs.  But getting to the root belief is important.  We can do this quite easily ourselves by asking “what’s the worst thing if …. happened?”.  Just keep asking the question and you will be amazed at how totally different your core belief is from the original issue.

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This is a recent review of my hypnotherapy work.

Understanding the difference between thinking and thought is really important when we begin to develop our intuitive faculities.  Most of us, and for most of the time, engage in the thinking process, or at least we think we do.  Or we are told we do.  We are told we use our brains to analyse and work through our day from start to end.   And even when it does end, and we are in bed, the thinking does not stop.  How much we actually do think is debatable.  What if what we thought we were thinking wasn’t actually thinking at all.

In myself I can seeing an increasing non-engagement with my own thoughts.  This means I think less these days.  Moving away from thinking as a process and moving towards a thought-based intuitive relationship with myself, I see that I can let go of the thinking if I allow my thoughts to just fluidly enter and leave my head.

What this means is that I do not aim to control the process.  Communication with higher energies requires our minds to be open and free, it also helps if there is silence within and from this place you allow your awareness to do the rest.  Our awareness is a complicated thing, there are lots of different levels to it, but I don’t think we need to actually think and separate these planes out.  What is important though is that we recognise that when a ‘thought’ pops into our heads, it helps if we are open to the idea that it is perhaps not our ‘head’ doing it to itself.  I believe it is usually a higher spiritual energy trying to connect with us, trying to guide us. 

I always take note when a thought pops into my head, and whatever immediately arises from that thought is the start of my communication with spirit.  This is not mediumship, which is confined to outdated circles in spiritual churches, this is having a relationship with God/source/spirit.  This we can do whenever we humble ourselves enough to know we can’t work it out.  It does take a little practice, but start it and it just takes on an energy of its own.

To the contrary of what most people assume, hypnotherapy is a treatment that empowers the individual to make changes in their lives.  Nobody can be hypnotised against their will, during a hypnotherapy session, the client is always completely in control and can chose to reject any suggestions made at any point.  It is a mistaken belief, instilled by stage hypnosis, that we lose control of ourselves and are open to all manner of suggestions. 

Let me reassure you that hypnotherapy works purely to enhance your own intention to heal or change your life.  If you want to change something in your life, but a part of you is resisting the change, then hypnotherapy, or some other type of regression will work wonders for you. 

We all slip in and out of trances (our own self-hypnosis) many times each day.  Sometimes when we sit at our desks, we find ourselves drifting off or perhaps sitting at traffic lights we allow ourselves to experience a similar kind of trance.  Hypnosis or hypnotherapy works to recreate this state from which we can redirect our subsconscious minds to do what our conscious mind choses.   This allows us to let go of subconscious patterns that are unhelpful in our lives.

Hypnotherapy and regression works for just about anything, including pain relief (particularly effective for childbirth), weight management, smoking and other addictions, insomnia, phobias and work related issues such as preparing for interviews, being on stage or presentations.

So much of our approach to the spiritual, especially when you start out in the game, begins in the head.  When new concepts flood our consciousness, the first thing we usually do is apply our thinking.  All excited with our new understanding of life, we work tirelessly, trying to help others understand and take on board the spiritual movement.  Being in our heads and in the clouds makes me question whether this is really living in the present.

Spirituality nearly always is on the upward move, to the mental plane, to the heavens.  Our spiritual development needs to move away from mentalising and the processes of thinking.  Through feeling our feet on the ground, taking our awareness to our bellies, our hearts and the body we start trying to pull ourselves back down to earth.  Grounding means we fully engage with our experience of life.

It might be uncomfortable to be in our bodies, and it might be easier to exist in this ‘ascension phase’, believing that we manifest our lives around us through our ‘thinking patterns’.  Until we actually experience real grounding in our reality, we will continue to think we create our lives from the space of our heads.  Real creation, begins in the body.  Facing our upset in very physical way is what we call grounding.  This is a very invaluable aspect of spiritual counselling.

For centuries the Tarot’s twenty-two major arcana have been part of foundations of an energetic inter-play that extends our entire lives.  These allegorical archtypes form the basis of our journey through this life and past lives, but they are also the basis of who we are as we manifest these different energies in our Soul Contract chart.

In essence, the Tarot and the Soul Contract Reading can be used in conjunction with each other to illuminate each system even further.  Using the Tarot as both a tool to further inform your soul contract reading, and also as a tool to define where you are at now, illuminates our talents, goals and challenges further.

The beauty of this is that the twenty-two major arcana show a symbolic journey, encountering real internal and external challenges on the journey.   Yet if we look deeper we can also find real answers to these challenges faced.

For more information on this, please read my article that explains in more detail how some of the numbers in your Soul Contract chart would connect to the major arcana.

Feelings are real, emotions are not, although they really do feel it.  There has always been much confusion between these two words.  Telling the difference takes some awareness, practice and inner certainty.  The soul communicates through feeling, for example you feel that you need to do something, or call someone.  Emotions are chemical reactions that we cannot easily control unless we learn the tools and devote some practice.  Reacting to our emotions in the way we react to a feeling can mean we say things that we didn’t mean to, or act or think in a way that causes upset for others.  Our emotions have consequences, especially if we don’t keep them under wraps; at least, that’s what we are told.  Suppress your emotions, we are told, but actually its emotional stability for which we strive.  But what of feelings, well, they are quieter, subtler, gentler; they whisper to us and we can barely hear them unless we want to be listening.  Yes, you need to listen for feelings, but you hear your emotions loud and clear.  This is why when you hear an emotion, listen intently to what it’s telling you about your feelings.  Because hidden beneath the flurry, there is something real that needs to be acknowledged.

Our conscious thoughts inform our behaviours.  But only rarely.  Most of our behaviours come from seemingly nowhere.  It has been labelled the deep, dark, hidden area termed “below the tip of the iceberg”.  But it is is best termed “the space in between” - otherwise known as the “unconscious”.  What goes off here probably controls 95% of our actions.  The space in between that is not occupied is the part of us that we need to bring to the light.  By bathing it in light, we can begin to use our will to do something about what behaviours create.  We see it playing out; the screaming, the shouting and crying, the repetitive phone calls, the stalking and we then choose differently.  It takes great will to change behaviours, particularly ingrained behaviours.  This is where ‘being’ comes into its own - the seat of the will.  When we decide to ‘be’ a non-smoker -  our will is kicking in.  There can be no argument with our will, it’s a decision that our spirit decides over any indecision of our mind.  We outgrow behaviours, or rather they outgrow us, and when we decide to be something else, this can be powerful beyond any medicine.  Strengthening the will takes dedication, persistence, channelling and clarity of thought - all which can be arrived at through compassion, acceptance and healing.

Sometimes we can be so confined to our heads that it feels like we cannot escape ourselves.  Our thought processes can really take over our lives, causing insomnia, destructive thought patterns and strongly affecting our emotions.  Being a prisoner of our heads can be extremely draining.  Escaping our heads is easier than we actually think, and halting negative patterns of thinking can sometimes involve a simple intervention.  Eventually, feeling free of of heads can release the joy back into our lives, allowing us to feel our senses once again.

Often relationships bring us our greatest joy and our deepest pain.  Our greatest pain can be deepest joy and our deepest joy can be our greatest pain.  Have you ever felt joy and pain at the same time?  Certain relationships can be addictive because they bring us these extremes.  But letting go of these extremes, outlived relationships bring on new growth, for everyone concerned.  And after all relationships are always forever, although they change within the frame of ‘forever’.  We always share a relationship with everything and everyone, but it is the nature of that relationship and when relationships change, or need to change that cause the problems.  Letting go of relationships is not necessarily always what is needed, sometimes it’s just a change to our expectations, and a reassessment of our needs.